I’ll be completely open and admit that the only “job” I want is that of a homemaker. I’ve never enjoyed any other work, whether paid or unpaid, as much as being in our home, taking care of my family. I’ve received a lot of pushback and criticism over the years from strangers and even from family. When did “just” being a homemaker become lesser than doing paid work? When did our society change from supporting a woman in the home to consider it demeaning and not important? Isn’t the upbringing of our children and creating a home environment conducive to building strong relationships even more important than the quest for money?
These are the questions my head and heart are constantly asking in defense of my family’s decision for me to be a homemaker. I’m officially middle-aged now, and frankly I’m tired of trying to conform to what the world tells me is acceptable. I spent too many precious years doing that and, in effect, wasted glorious hours, days, weeks, months and even years away from my true calling – homemaking.
I simply do not consider homemaking to be an inferior career choice. The Bible tells us to be productive, but God doesn’t tell us it has to be work that receives a monetary payment. The work of a homemaker or housewife is paid in countless ways – the joy of hearing your children, the peacefulness of a less-stressed home environment, the quiet satisfaction in a tidy living space. No, these aren’t tasks that line our pocketbooks with cold hard cash, but personally I feel like the benefits far surpass whatever I would have bought with cash for those hours.
Dan Miller says in his book “No More Mondays, “It’s about knowing yourself so completely that you can identify a work fit that you will find enjoyable, rewarding and profitable.” And that doesn’t mean only paid work. I have found the work I find enjoyable, rewarding and profitable. Not profitable in the sense of adding funds to our checking account each week, but profitable in supporting my husband who does go out into the world to earn money. Profitable in having time to take a phone call or text our college-aged daughter. Profitable in freedom and time to homeschool our younger daughter. These are the profits I seek.
Dan goes on to say, “We will shift from viewing work as something that serves only our own needs to seeing it as a calling that enables us to serve others, share God’s love, and activate a chain of miracles.” What a fascinating way to think about our “jobs” as homemakers!
What is more important than beginning to serve God by serving our family? This certainly has the potential to share His love and to “activate a chain of miracles.” If we intentionally look for the joy in the service of making a home for our family, then we will find it both enjoyable and rewarding.
As for the profits, well, some profits are measured in other ways than monetary. Think of profits from our roles as homemakers as results such as: Growing closer to your husband as you work as a team together, he as the breadwinner and you as the helpmeet. Or the profits you see as your children, no matter their age, flourish from the extra attention and time you can share with them, perhaps teaching them life skills at the same time or even just having fun! Or even the profits you create by investing in your church family or community when you have more time and energy to do volunteer activities, such as taking meals to someone who is sick or taking time to pray over a situation a family is facing.
These profits may never be able to be measured in money, but they are so very important to our values as a society and also to doing Kingdom work. So I encourage you to embrace your role as homemaker or housewife will full abandon and reap every bit of joy that is produced from this very noble profession!